Get over a break-up

Everyone deals in its own way with a break-up. Some choose destructive methods, while others can cope really well. You can get over a break-up in a healthy way too. I know that right now it seems that you can’t, because she seems irreplaceable, but with time you will be able to get over her.

1. Lay low for a while.

It’s ok to lay low for a few days after a break-up, especially if it was a long-term relationship and a tumultuous break-up. Even if you are a man, grieve a little and even cry if you feel like it, but do not go into fights, start pitying yourself or drink too much.

Usually after a break-up you tend to deny that it happened, so let it in. Figure out if it is really over and if you had reached the point of no return and if the answer is affirmative, try and find a way to move on. If you are not sure it’s really over, clear things out.

Your friends and family will call you because they are worried, and it is best if you answer them, and even go out with them if you feel capable of doing it.

If your relationship is really over, you must stop denying this as soon as possible, because this is the first step you must take when getting over the break-up.

2. Be angry

This is the second step, and you might want someone next to you. You are mad because you do not know why it has come to this, so get together with your friends and talk about the situation.

You must get rid of all those unhealthy thoughts and mind-boggling questions like: “Why couldn’t she understand you?”, “Where were you wrong so many times?”  You are mad because you can’t do anything to turn back the time and make up for whatever it is that you did.

You must control your anger but you must let it all out, too. That is why you have your friends next to you. Maybe they will also criticize you, but you won’t make the same mistakes again. Or, they might tell you that you were too good for her and you will find someone better.

Just lay your cards on the table and you will definitely feel better afterwards.

3. Trying to get her back?

You will want to plead for reconciliation, despite the fact that you are still wandering back and forth between anger and denial and you are still not sure if you reached the point of no return. If you want to beg her to get back together, at least wait until you are sure about what you want.

Freshen up, do some exercise and call her when you are out not in your bed crying. Don’t let her imagine you sad and overwhelmed with sorrow. If she answers you, try to convince her to meet up for a drink or text her if she doesn’t answer, by saying that you should talk for some closure.

If you want to try and get her back is best to meet and try to charm your way back. If she has already moved on, then it is time for you to do the same.

4. Go out

After trying to win her over and failing, you will get despaired and depressed. In order to avoid this, you will have to go out. If you do not want to be depressed anymore, you will have to try and have fun. Go out with your friends, dress-up, style your hair and get back in the saddle.

Even the fact that you are trying to smile will make you feel happy. Try doing something fun and try new things.  Go bungee-jumping, jogging or go out with your friends and party all night.

 5. Get over it

Gene Pitney had a song in the 60’s in which he said that “only love can break a heart, only love can mend it again”, and if you are on your way to get over the break-up, you already know that you must meet someone new.

I bet that there are already a few ladies who want to be with you, but try not to rush into things because it won’t be good for none of you.

If you are still trying to recover, it is best for you to go out on a few dates as long as you explain the situation to yourself. It might help you realize that life still has something more to offer to you. Do not rush into things, choose better and avoid doing the same mistakes you did last time.