Some basic rules of breaking up

One of the hardest things in life is to break-up with the person you once loved the most and move on. You should know there is never a good time to break up, whenever you do it people get hurt so don’t try to avoid an uncomfortable situation because you can’t.

One of the things people don’t realize is that many times, especially when getting dumped, it’s your ego that hurts the most. People get hurt, but when they are dumped their pride is hurt the most; they feel useless and not good enough for the person who dumped them. This is a natural feeling, but you have to avoid frustration and realize that you are just not good enough together and it is not necessarily your fault that you were dumped.

When you feel like you don’t love your partner anymore or you know that your relationship can’t possibly work anymore, it’s time to rip off the Band-Aid and get out of it in an honest and civilized way.

Once you told her that you want to end the relationship you must realize there should be no more contact between you at least half of the time you’ve been together. Do not call, text, e-mail, Facebook or communicate in any way with the person you have dumped. In order to forget each other you have to spend time apart without seeing or hearing about one another. However, when you randomly meet on the street or somewhere else you should say hello politely. You have been together as a couple and you have shared many things so you need to respect whatever happened between you.

Another important rule is never to ask questions to which you don’t really want to know the answer. It will not make you feel any better to know who she is sleeping with since you broke up so just let it go. Ignorance is bliss.

No matter what you do, never sleep with someone you broke up with because it will always end up bad. Even if you treat it like a friends-with-benefits situation, she might want more than that and in the end, it’s also about power. If you dumped her first, she might want a chance to dump you as well, so don’t start a game you are both destined to lose.

The bottom line is, no matter what happened between you, try ending your relationship in a civilized manner and respect the time you spent together. You have to realize that now you are single, focus on your life and on what you want to do from now on. It may be painful and hard, but that’s how life goes. You will love again and maybe you’ll get hurt again, but in the end that’s what makes us human.