The basic rules of conversation

Effective flirting is all about knowing how to talk with a woman and get to know her better. Some men do not really have great conversational skills, but you don’t have to worry. Here are some tips on how to become a great conversationalist.

The first thing you need to do is practise. This means you will have to start talking with as many people as possible and by this I don’t mean your family or friends. Go out and try to strike up a conversation with a stranger. Whether it is your neighbor in the elevator or someone in line at a supermarket, you are not trying to pick them up, but trying to improve your social skills. Even if it might get awkward, remember that practice makes perfect.

Secondly, always keep in mind that a conversation is a two-way process. You should never start talking about yourself and give unnecessary details about your life. The best thing you can do is ask questions to which she would like to answer. Everybody knows women like to talk, so ask the right questions and she will do the rest of the job. The best questions are those related to her ambitions, plans and personality. Do not start to ask her about her favorite color or food because it will get you nowhere.

Thirdly, if you want to really involve her in a conversation ask about her opinion on a certain topic. The best thing about this type of discussion is that no matter what she will say, your conversation can keep going without a problem. If she agrees with you, you have something in common and you can further discuss the topic. If she doesn’t, you can tease her in a funny way about her opinion.

You should never talk about topics which might creep her out. Even if you already feel the chemistry between you, once you make jokes about violence or serial killers, the magic will disappear. You have to consider that for her you are still a stranger, so don’t screw it up by scaring her away.

If you are thinking about giving her a compliment, try to be original and comment on her earrings or her shoes, something that men usually don’t even notice. She will be impressed that you pay attention to such details. Try to be as casual as you can be, relax and talk to her with confidence.

These are just some basic rules to strike up a great conversation with a woman, but if you follow them, you should have no problems in getting to know her and ask her out for a second date.