First night hook up
How should I react when trying to hook up with a woman who starts saying that she usually doesn’t do this or that she doesn’t usually move this fast, despite the fact that it is obvious that she enjoys it?
Question from: Trevor
Answer for: First night hook up from Men Advice Team
LetsBond answers:
What would you have done if you were in her position, meaning that you are a woman whose self-image does not include hooking up with men from the first night you’ve met them but you have a strong sexual attraction to the guy you’ve just met and want to hook up with him ? Wouldn’t you say that you don’t usually do this or that you don’t usually move this fast?
I think it is natural for a woman to act like this and you will have to get used to it. However, I do have an answer to your question:
Don’t expect anything: men tend to get their hopes up when they manage to make a woman come home with them and they are so excited about the hooking up that they tend to get really upset if that doesn’t happen.
If you give too much importance to this, you will fail and do things that will cause you to fail so, don’t expect anything and be okay with whatever will happen (or won’t).
Make sure she knows: As I just said, you must be cool with whatever will happen but you must also let her know that and you mustn’t be pushy. You have to smoothly transition from one step to the next and you will see that you will be receiving positive feedback, even if it may seem like resistance.
Women aren’t used to see men who know how to approach them and they do not usually let themselves be swept away by the emotions that you are triggering with your actions: body language, conversation and touch.
