Getting involved or not?
Hi, I am 23 and I’ve met this wonderful 32 year old woman who is simply amazing. When we’ve met have we had a great conversation and we’ve really connected. She lives in another city and I don’t quite know if she likes me as a friend or if she would like to go on a date with me. She gave me her e-mail and said that we should keep in touch. I am really attracted to her. What do you think I should do?
Question from: James
Answer for: Getting involved or not? from Men Advice Team
Your situation is not as simple as you may think. Do you want to get really involved in a relationship with her and be a committed partner, or the only thing you want is to have a fun long-distance girlfriend? If it is the former, you may feel like you are too young to get so serious with a woman, but if it is the latter then it’s again, not fair to waste her time with a fling, when she can start a family of her own.
You have to consider that you are still very young, but she is over 30 now and she might be thinking how long she is going to still be fertile and have children. If this is the case, you should back off and let her find someone who can offer her what she wants: a family.
However, if you plan to get serious with her you should go visit her and spend more time together, because a relationship like this couldn’t work if you see each other every few months. Once you will start dating her I believe you will figure out what you want from her.
Best of luck!
