How can I get back the spark we had in the beginning ?
I met a girl a few months back and we felt instant chemistry. The problem is, when we went out on our first date, it was getting awkward and I totally lost my confidence. How can I get back the spark we had in the beginning ?
Question from: Mike
Answer for: How can I get back the spark we had in the beginning ? from Men Advice Team
LetsBond answers:
This is a far more common situation than you might believe. When you first meet someone, there is no pressure or expectation because everything happens spontaneously and unplanned. You talk about whatever you can think of and feel comfortable enough to enjoy the conversation.
When you label your second encounter as a “first date”, you instantly put pressure on both of you and high expectations are likely to arise. When both of you expect a lot from the other then it is likely to face disappointment. So try to meet this girl again, in a more casual environment, maybe doing some sports or volunteering together for a certain cause and you will instantly feel the spark again.
Remember, you lose the chemistry when you set higher expectations than needed. A first date is not an interview or test; it should be an opportunity to get to know each other better.
